Alright. So, throughout this blog, we have had nothing but positive thing to say about good ol' Sadie Hawkins.
That changes now.
Listen to this story about how one girl's life was ruined by Sadie Hawkins.
This girl's name was..yep, you guessed it..Sadie.
Her name was Sadie, and her dance was coming up. It was a Christmastime dance during her sophomore year of high school. She had never been to a school dance, because whenever she'd want to go, a group of popular girls used to bully her and threaten her so much that she was too afraid to go.
Also, she wasn't very pretty. So she never got asked by a boy.
But this time, she was determined. She didn't have to worry about not being asked, the ball was in her court. She heard an inspirational talk by Beyonce and took that as the universe telling her she should ask the cutest boy in school to go to the dance with her. His name was Jeremy.
One day after school, as she was walking past Jeremy's locker, she saw her chance. She slowed down, clinging to the textbooks against his chest.
He didn't hear her. She tried again.
He looked up. "Oh hi, Sadie." He smiled. "How are you?"
As soon as she started to respond, she heard a gasp coming from behind her. And there she was - Tiffany, the head of the hot-headed meanie faces.
"Jeremy!!!" Tiffany yelled. "Don't talk to her!"
She ran over and pushed Sadie into the locker. Jeremy's eyes widened. He was scared.
"Oh, I'm sorry Tiffany. I didn't mean to make you mad. I won't touch her again...just please don't hurt her, okay?"
Tiffany rolled her eyes. "Shut up, you big loser!!!"
At that, Sadie knew what she needed to do. That night, she went home and overdosed on her mother's painkillers.
Is your school throwing a Sadie Hawkins Dance? If so, don't forget the most important part - the centerpieces for the tables! All Sadie Hawkins Dances begin with a meal...and so, flowers should make an appearance on the table alongside some scrumptious food.
What are appropriate color combination for a Sadie Hawkins centerpiece? Well, because it's a rather nontraditional event, I would suggest a nontraditional centerpiece.
Sadie Hawkins was an Irish woman - so definitely include greens. Possibly green trick or hypericum berries - something funky.
And include several gender-neutral colors; like orange, yellow, and white.
Obviously, try not to create something too tall, as to obstruct conversation among the guests. Something low and lush would serve the table much better. And definitely choose an arrangement from a local florist like www.fallonsflowers.com. They're great because they have excellent designers, you can order to anywhere in the U.S., and they are a family-owned business.
Ultimately, you want your guests to remember this night forever. And one of the strongest ways to our memory is our sense of smell! So, think about including some lavender or lily in your centerpiece as well. That way, throughout the rest of the students' lives, whenever they smell a lily or a sprig of lavender, they'll remember the wonderful time they had!
Sadie Hawkins is a traditional Irish dance in which the roles are reversed - the woman asks the man. Some women resonate so much with this theme that they choose to adopt it for other events, too.
So, the question is...is that wrong?
Well, I would say the answer to that question depends on your personality. If you are typically a dominating woman, a woman who tends to be drawn to feeble men, a woman who gives orders rather than receiving them...
Then to you, I would say: yes. It's wrong. Let the man ask you.
Inversely, if you are a woman who typically shies away from men, a woman who is intimidated by men, a woman who feels they must always submit to any man and is terrified of making a decision for the man....
Then to you, I would say: No, it's not wrong. Go ahead and ask him.
Now, I know what you're thinking: Wait, wait, wait, Nicole. Are you sure you got that order right? Don't you mean it the other way around?
I purposely answered it in this way. I believe that both men and women should always be challenging themselves. I believe that men and women should always intentionally make the decision that goes against the grain of their personality. Doing this will stretch you, grow you, and give you a better understanding of your capabilities and strengths.
It'll also help you break some unhealthy habits.
I say to the feeble woman: SPEAK! Your voice is valuable. Your voice is irreplaceable. Your voice must be heard.
But I say to the domineer: SIT DOWN. You are heard so much, people are beginning to tune you out. You will have a greater effect through silence.
Did your high school host a Sadie Hawkins dance? You know what those are - those dances in which the girl asks the guy.
Maybe they didn't call it that specifically...but most schools do host some type of dance of this nature.
In my hometown, we had 3 wintertime dances in which the girl asks the guy. The sophomore year dance was called "snowflake", the junior year dance was called "mistletoe", and the senior year dance was "poinsettia".
Snowflake was fun. I went with a guy named Ray. I wore a black dress, he wore a black suit with a silver vest and a white shirt. We danced inappropriately all night long until his friend's dad took us home. That was back in February 2008...so raunchy dance music was pretty good. Not as good as when I was in middle school, but there were some good ones.
Some of the top songs in 2008 were...
1. Flo Rida feat. T-Pain - Low
2. Leona Lewis - Bleeding Love
3. Alicia Keys - No One
4. Lil Wayne feat. Static Major - Lollipop
5. Timbaland feat. OneRepublic - Apologize
6. Jordin Sparks feat. Chris Brown - No Air
7. Sara Bareilles - Love Song
8. Usher feat. Young Jeezy - Love In This Club
9. Chris Brown - With You
10. Chris Brown - Forever
11. Ray J and Yung Berg - Sexy Can I
12. Rihanna - Take A Bow
13. Coldplay - Viva La Vida
14. Katy Perry - I Kissed A Girl
15. T.I. - Whatever You Like
16. Rihanna - Disturbia
17. Rihanna - Don't Stop the Music
18. Natasha Bedingfield - Pocketful of Sunshine
19. Chris Brown feat. T-Pain - Kiss Kiss
20. Ne-Yo - Closer
Just to name a few!
Mistletoe, however, was not as fun. I had a secret crush on my date. He was genuinely very kind to me, but it obviously wasn't a romantic thing. Also - everyone else's dresses were far fancier than mine. I was embarrassed and self-conscious.
So much so, that I opted not to go to Poinsettia my senior year.
Take that, Sadie Hawkins!
I'm Nicole. I believe that women should have the right to ask a guy to dance whenever and however they'd like. If you agree, cool. If not, read my articles and consider my position. It's a good one.